Men and women are different in several respects, but the moment you get on to the subject of shoes, a chasm opens between the two sexes; it’s only for women that shoes become an all-consuming obsession.
Shoes can cost a fortune; yet while money itself does not bring happiness, a pair of new shoes bring on a kind of exaltation. Unlike clothes, shoes have a distinct advantage. No matter what size you are, short or tall, you can buy all the shoes your heart desires. Shoes have a tendency of being more forgiving than your jeans or that little black dress and fit whether you gain or lose weight. They are capable of making you feel sexy, elegant or stylish at a single stroke.
Our intimate relationship with shoes begins shortly after we learn to walk. As soon as we want to feel “grown-up,” we slip on a pair of our mother’s shoes, preferably high heels, instantly heightening our sense of what it means to be a woman. And then what happens? We grow up and get to be the same size as our mother, and our personality begins to assert itself with the first independent purchase of shoes. Then we let shoes represent us, because as adult women, at any given moment, shoes are indicators of our age, mood and desires.
More than anything else, women’s shoes speak the language of sex. You don’t have to be a moralist or a philosopher in order to understand the message transmitted by a girl in a pair of UGG boots versus one wearing high-heeled stilettos. But that’s only a first impression. The old belief (heels = sex goddess, flats = nun) is constantly challenged by variations in fashion and edgy styles. And yet, one thing remains certain: a high-heeled shoe is the object of apparel that – more than any other – marks the difference between men and women.
Then there are the simple aesthetics of wearing a pair of high heels that just makes a woman feel sexy. The long legs appearance or highlighting, and how it compliments our wardrobe. Then there is the ego boost… we never seem to comment on it but it’s there and we love it. You know what I’m talking about: the admiration in another man or woman’s eyes over your shoe that just makes you feel good.
Moreover, shoes have also featured prominently in the popular female cartoon & movie productions, from Disney Cinderella’s glass slippers (clearly a symbol of purity and innocence) to the more sinful stilettos worn by the “Sex and the City” characters who share two great weaknesses: men and shoes.
You have to admit that as a woman you must have used at least once the shoe therapy, and that there is an unexplained, silly contentment of a future shoe acquisition, be it flats, ballerinas, boots or pumps. It is in our DNA, and I for one, accept it, love it and embrace it! 🙂