The basic need to INSPIRE others

We all want to inspire! Yes, it might sound strange to you and you may be the person saying “I do not care about others or what others think”. However, deep inside of you, whenever someone looks up to you, compliments you or simply says he/she took your advise or did something just like you said, you feel great content, pride, a warm satisfaction that in the end comes down to the fact that you feel you are a meaningful person, you impact the world around you, you make a difference. Come on, you did feel it! It’s normal and it is neither narcissist nor a proof of over self-confidence. And it is definitely not a sign of weakness if inspiring others matters to you. It comes from the need we have as humans to inspire in order to feel like we are an important piece in the social game and in life. Don’t be too hard on yourself, if you are denying this, I have to tell you that inspiring is genuinely a beautiful thing!
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I know many of you might argue the need to inspire, saying that inspiring others is not at all important, as you do not live through the eyes of others, but for yourself. Ok, I agree with this healthy thinking. I actually admire that line of thought, but ultimately even by saying this, if what you are saying is stimulating me, impacts me, makes me pause for a second and think deeply, and so you indirectly might make me believe you (yes, I might be inspired by your strength), this fact will bring some sort of content or relief to you that you convinced me or I accepted your thinking, which will ultimately come from the fact that I got inspired by what you said and had a small “AHA!” moment. The inspirer (you) would feel satisfied, content (it cannot be controlled, believe me!), while the inspiree (me in this example) would put more thought into his/her actions or perceptions of things. See how easy it goes? And you didn’t even want to inspire me!
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So why do we need to inspire? Well, it resumes to sharing with others (directly or indirectly) how we feel, who we are, what we think, and exercising an elevating or stimulating influence on their intellect and emotions. It is practically a need to communicate and somehow leave a touch of us, a mark of thought on someone without any further strong arguments/debates needed. Inspiring is convincing silently through words, music, pictures, art, expressions, and so on – it is a state of art, leaving a positive feeling on the other person.

All of us, at one point in our life, we get to inspire others. There is beauty in every person, and there is always another person recognizing that, and thus getting some inspiration from that. It is important that you stay true to yourself, because that is when you most inspire the world around. Your original self is inspiring because it is unique. Being unique as you are, you are a piece of art, so if you ever wanted to be inspirational for others be true to yourself and don’t be afraid to be who you are comfortable to be. The world needs and appreciates authenticity!

People and people interactions through all senses will always be a sources of inspiration. I love letting people surprise me and inspire me. I also like to find inspiration in strangers. But I also like to believe I am inspiring to others in some way. We all need to feel that – just be honest and admit it!

So, on a final note, just be your true self always and let others be inspired by your uniqueness! The moment you want to become something that you are not, your authenticity fades, and your sparkle is gone – you are just a copy-cat with little inspirational value.

Rock the town in Animal Print Footsteps

2014 must be the year of funky shoes. Seriously, I saw it all: from pointed toes, bulky shoes, in particular bulky heels to animal prints and western detailing.

And in this context, the animal print VANS, I could not resist buying, are a funky, comfy, trendy choice, and one of my personal favorite this spring. A good friend of mine, working in Marie Claire raised my interest in them, and once I saw them, I felt in love and ordered them right away.
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I am no big fan of full animal print outfits. I like simplicity and moderation in my style, so I knew these Vans would be the exact exotic, crazy, trendy animal print touch I could play around with outfits. More like an accessory than actual shoes.

My other two favorite animal print items in my wardrobe are: a pair of pumps (actually snake skin) and a shawl. Like I said, I do not over do it, but this depends on personality and personal style. However, you do need some particular funky shoes for this SS’14. They are fun, they look original the funkier they are, and personalize your style – and this comes from a faithful high heels girl like my self! I must say I rediscovered my playfulness with these babies! 🙂

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The Boy in Chanel

I have been fond of the Chanel Boy bag since it came out, and later on last year, after long considerations, I purchased the black and white version, just because the non-color is what I find most classy about Chanel. This bag is a wonderful accessory and very chameleonic in the sense that you can wear it with a cocktail dress or with a casual outfit, and it just goes perfectly either way. I wore mine in Paris last week, both as a casual chic piece going around the city and a perfect accessory in Disneyland for a fun casual day – so you get the picture.

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Karl Lagerfeld suggests the flexibility of the style of the bag brings about a new interpretation of boyish charm: “Chanel used men’s underwear to make dresses; she had this boyish attitude, in fact it is the very spirit of Chanel. She got it from Boy Capel, the great love of her life, which, incidentally, explains why the new bag is called the Boy Chanel.” I have to be honest though: I did not make the connection between the name of the bag and Chanel’s great love until one day when my boyfriend mentioned it in a moment of “I love your bag. By the way, did you know….?”. I felt slightly ignorant on the spot, but then again we are humans :).

And I guess, the name of the bag and its connection with Coco Chanel’s big love, makes it somewhat an idyllic piece, and so a must-have collectible. I always believed that a Chanel bag is a timeless investment. I purchased my first one, 2.55 black flap bag years ago, and it is still a small jewelry in my bag collection, styling beautifully every outfit. It just never runs out of style. And neither will this one I am sure. Because fashion pieces that we absolutely love, when they become old, we call them vintage :). So, with a Chanel, you are always playing on the safe field of never actually running out of style.

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Moreover, Chanel released the Pre-spring 2014 (Spring 2014 Act 1) in January 2014, and the SS’14 Act 2 collection too which comprises of the Boy bag in metallics. The new collections are wonderful and have some to-die-for pieces. However, my personal favorite is from Act 1, the pastel color (faded pink) one below. Simple, delicate, elegant – just perfect, simply Chanel!
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It’s time to state it with flowers!

Flower prints may not be groundbreaking or any kind of fashion innovation or spectacular trend, but they will forever be considered the mark of spring; familiar you may say, but never disappointing in underlining femininity, delicacy and… spring. In March, you can always count on weather finally allowing you to put on a floral fantasy outfit to assure a smooth transition between seasons and this spring is no different – at least in Europe, given the sunny days we have enjoyed lately.

Below, you can see the look I chose this weekend in Paris: vivid flowers and black.

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I am not keen on adopting a head-to-toe floral look, but this season offers plenty of equally stunning alternatives to combine: skirts, blouses, shorts, long pants or jeans or blazers. Then there is the simple cuts and the more daring cuts – depending on your personality. I usually like to choose one flowery piece and combine it with something in mono-color or something simple so that particular piece would stand out.

Last year was the year of  delicate pastel shades, but this year besides pretty delicate florals, there is also a more daring print with all the vivid colors imaginable, but still in the lines of delicacy and subtlety. Simply hard not to love as a girl! 🙂

 

What if you stopped tracking time so much?

20140315_175636Have you ever wished that time would just go away? I don’t mean time or “existence” in the literal sense. I mean time in the way we count things.

Because we’re always counting, aren’t we?

  • What time is it?
  • How much time do I have left?
  • How much longer until we arrive?
  • I hate waiting so long, I don’t have time for this.
  • We need to hurry up.
  • If I’m late, I’m going to be in trouble.

When you really take a close look at all the situations related to time, it’s amazing how much we obsess over it. We think we can control time, how long things take, and what kind of results we get. They say time management, after all, is how we achieve success, isn’t it?

Or so we think. Because there are so many other factors to success that have nothing to do with time, and nothing to do with counting it. There are priorities, there are relationships, resources, focus, commitment, discipline, passion and all of these other things. Yet we simply call it “time management.”

I’ve seen many people trying to…

  • Make sure there’s enough time.
  • Schedule things efficiently.
  • Make sure they have time for this, or time for that.
  • Not let time “run away from them.”

See how ridiculous this gets?

We spend too much energy on tracking time. So, in fact it is not time management that we should worry about, but energy management. Just live life and enjoy it! And recognize that the time you enjoy wasting is not time wasted, it is LIVING! I’ve found personally that trying to constantly manage and monitor my time has only led me to greater anxiety, and always feeling like I’ve not “done enough” or “in due time”. I’m always thinking about how I could have “spent that time more wisely.” But the purpose of life is to enjoy it, isn’t it?, not question efficiency every step of the way.

Time is rooted in happiness and good memories. So create them and make a conscious choice to be happy and grateful. Ditch that society time conditioning and set goals, priorities and dreams for your life and focus your energy on that, on EXPERIENCE, NOT TRACKING:)! Relax and enjoy the ride at the pace life is setting for you!

Cuff your style for SS’14 & AW’14 seasons

During the past fashion weeks I have noticed a commonality among the accessorizes proposed by the haute-couture fashion houses, that personally I believe is a nice inspiration for both this soon upcoming summer season and AW’14: the cuffs and statement bracelets.

Usually, if you decide to accessorize your outfit with a statement cuff, you should probably go easy on the necklace and either just wear a pair of statement earrings or nothing at all. I do not like to overdo with accessories. It is important to add a touch of style and personality, but not end up with a heavy look.

So here is my favorite selection of cuffs and bracelets from the catwalk:

Chloe fringed cuff
Chloe fringed bracelets

Lanvin crystal cuff
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Bon-bon statement bracelet at Gucci
Bon Bon Bracelets Gucci

Medallion cuff at Versace
Medallion cuffs Versace

Figurative cuff at Dior
Figurative cuffs Dior

And here are two of my favorite crystal Swarovski cuffs that I bought last summer (and how I wore them) that go very well for the upcoming season as well:
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I hope the “cuffy” style brought about some outfit inspiration to you as it did for me, and next time you shop around you might look also for some cuffs to add to your accessories collection (if you don’t own some already) and to match both your casual and evening outfits.

Compromising yourself to fit in? Don’t!

1017528_10153749016595624_250743157_nIf you have to compromise your character just to fit in, don’t fit in. Your self worth doesn’t depend on the acceptance of society. The minute you stop worrying about what people think of you is the second you start living. Guard your name, integrity and faith. Be mindful that people will hate you for the same reasons they will love you. I realized sometimes no matter what you do, how you act, how you dress…you are still talked about. Personally, it bothered me for a while, then I started not to care, but be flattered actually – if people talk, it is because you captured their attention. There is something particular about you! In the end, there is no such thing as bad publicity, right? I’d rather be talked about than completely blunt and invisible.

Criticism is basically a compliment that you’re doing something right. If you’re afraid of critics, you will die a nobody. Don’t waste time worrying about what people are saying and what people are thinking about you. You have affected their lives, don’t let them affect yours. People will only talk about people who are making a difference so why not welcome them?

Some people only speak of you to get attention from you or from others – because you are a hot topic! Others speak of you because of their jealously and insecurity. Confident people are comfortable being hated/disliked for exactly who they are. And the insecure ones seek love and acceptance trying to be something they’re not.

If the “real you” is ever questioned, the people who matter will know the truth and the ones who don’t won’t believe you anyway. It’s foolish to seek approval in people or things that have no relevance or authority. Understand that every person passing judgment isn’t a judge. Judgmental people don’t deserve your precious time or energy.

I personally don’t have time to hate the people who hate me, or talk about them, because I’m too busy loving the people who love me and people I admire and respect. I believe everyone should live with that same mindset. What people think or say about you is none of your business. That’s the logic we should live by. I actually learned this from my father. At the beginning, especially when I was in high school it was hard to understand him telling me that I should not care what others think of me. He never does. He is who he is and if people like him like that, fine, if not, he doesn’t suffer or care. Now I realize, it is healthy to think so. In the end, a hater is nothing but a fan! Trust me! You have grabbed his/her attention!

A critic is nothing but someone with an opinion. They just don’t know how to express it in positive way. Don’t be distracted by their criticism. Just remember the only taste of success that some people will ever have is when they take a bite out of a successful person. When we react to negativity, we are disturbing our inner space and mentally creating pain and negativity within ourselves. I’ve learned that when people initiate negativity, it’s usually a reflection of their inner state expressed externally. People are often so bored and unhappy with their own lives that they want to take others down with them. 

So heads up! Be yourself and let the haters hate! Probably, they are also the ones stocking your Facebook profile the most or analyzing you when you make an appearance! Enjoy the attention! It only means you make a difference and you are unique!