As we become busier, we grow up, we develop, our friendships can often take the back seat to jobs, boyfriends and new friends…sometimes somewhere overseas or in different cities. Hopefully most friends will be forgiving in this situation. We all know what it’s like to be swamped at work or get lost in the bliss of a new relationship, and you’ve probably been understanding when a few weeks have gone by without hearing from an old friend. But as long as these happenings are temporary, all is good and well. It’s when we stop making time for our friendships that the trouble starts. Good friendships are important to maintain, and to be honest it isn’t always easy.
I have been moving a lot in the past years, and I was lucky enough, wherever I moved, to make deep friendships, be it my home town – Baia Mare, or Bucharest, or Milan, or LA, or Lausanne. However, it has been very difficult keeping in touch, so that we don’t grow apart. I have to admit I have had fall-outs on touching base with everyone, and I wish I would do it more.
Fortunately, in this day and age there are about a million ways to stay in contact with one another, so there are really no excuses. That being said, here are a few tips I discovered for remaining close even when you are far away…
- Schedule your hangouts. Just like you would have made plans to grab a drink after work or meet up with a friend for lunch, plan a time to connect with your old friends too. Between different schedules and time changes, planning on a set time to Skype chat or get on Whatsapp/Facebook chat is the best way to catch up.
- Plan a getaway. Whether it’s around a holiday or one of your friend’s birthdays or just like that, get everyone aligned (yes…I know it is hard! but worth it!) and find a weekend you can all take a little time for a getaway. Even if it is weeks/months away, a little together time is a great thing to look forward to.
- Send some cute messages/funny pics on Whatsapp or Facebook. There are few things I love more than receiving a message of any kind from one of my besties. It doesn’t have to be anything special. Send your close friends a little reminder that you love and miss them and I guarantee it will brighten their day.
If your best friends live far away, try making one of the tips I listed above a regular occurrence. Maybe you each send each other a “postcard” from the city you live in once a month. Or maybe you plan two trips a year with your girlfriends. However you decide to keep in contact, making it regular part of your life will make the distance between you seem a lot shorter.