It happened to me several times that I was asked how come I always keep positive or happy no matter what life throws at me. This was both in the office or in my personal life. My nicknames went from “trouble maker” to “yes, woman” to “Hollywood” and so on… The truth is, I do get sad or stressed many times as an instinct but it lasts little because then I realize that a low mood will never move me forward nor solve anything going less fortunate in my life. So, every time, I just prefer to take a deep breath, lift my head up, hope for the best, learn from the unfortunate or challenge my skills to overcome it…and joke…and smile. My sense of humor helped me always even in the lowest points of my life. I recommend it 🙂
Because more often than not happiness is a choice. And happy people do things differently, better, are healthier and manage to get more of what they want in their lives. Below there are a few aspects of life in which happy people just make better emotional choices that lead to a calmer/better life overall.
LOVE vs. FEAR & HATE. People who are really happy fear less and love more. They see each moment, each challenge, and each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them. Hate is non-existent.
ACCEPTANCE vs. RESISTANCE. Happy people understand that you can’t really change a situation by resisting it, but you can change it by accepting that it’s there. More so, happy people strive for understanding that there might be a reason for its existence. When something unpleasant happens to happy people, they don’t try to fight it, knowing a fight will make the situation worse. Instead, they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? and how can I make this better? They focus on the positive rather than the negative.
FORGIVENESS vs. UNFORGIVENESS. Happy people know it’s not healthy to hold onto anger. They choose to forgive and move forward, understanding that forgiveness is a gift they give themselves.
TRUST vs. DOUBT. Happy people trust themselves. No matter who they encounter, they strive to make the person they’re interacting with feel important. They understand that beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies, and because of that, they make sure to treat everybody with love, dignity, and respect.
MEANING & PURPOSE vs. AMBITION. Happy people do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives; it gives them purpose. By doing so, they often reach both meaning and success, just because they focus on doing things they love. Money is not a sole motivator.
PRAISING vs. CRITICIZING. Happy people reinforce positive behavior in themselves and other people, and because of that, they often get wanted results.
CHALLENGES vs. PROBLEMS. Happy people see problems as challenges; as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things. They acknowledge even difficult challenges help them grow.
SELFLESSNESS vs. SELFISHNESS. Happy people do things for the good of others. They look for ways to give and share, helping others become happy.
ABUNDANCE vs. LACK/POVERTY. Happy people have an abundant mindset living a balanced life, achieving abundance in all areas of life.
DREAMING BIG vs. BEING REALISTIC. Happy people don’t really care about being realistic. They dare to dream big, listening to their heart and inner intuition. They don’t fear taking risks.
KINDNESS vs. CRUELTY. Happy people are kind to themselves and others. They understand the power of self-love, self-forgiveness, and self-acceptance.
GRATITUDE vs. INGRATITUDE. No matter the circumstance, happy people have the capacity to see beauty, opportunity, abundance, and gratitude. They don’t see the ugly in things.
PRESENCE/ENGAGEMENT vs. DISENGAGEMENT. Happy people know how to live in the present and appreciate what they have and where they are. At the same time, they are still forward thinking, planning for a successful future.
POSITIVITY vs. NEGATIVITY. No matter what happens, happy people strive to keep a positive perspective on things. They are very serious about surrounding their inner-self with peace and harmony.
TAKING RESPONSIBILITY vs. BLAMING. Happy people take ownership over their lives and rarely use excuses. They understand that the moment you choose to blame an outside force, you are surrendering your power. Blame is a form of weakness.
So how about a conceptual change when bad things happen in life and shift the thinking towards positivism and learning with thoughts like: “I’ll make it”, “It will be ok!”, “What can I learn from this?” and so on? 🙂