Original Sin

I don’t know how or why,

But I was tempted

To sip a delicious time

From a glass of sin.

I obeyed.

I tasted in reluctance.

And I was shuddered

As it was bitter sweet.

I did not expect to like it.

But since that day I remained with silent lips…

And I kept silent

As I was wondering:

“What would have happened if during that sip

I would have tasted the flavor of his soul?”

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Save September for a trip to Capri… and stay there!

If you are an incurable romantic, fool for beautiful sceneries, good food & wine, amazing people and in-need for sea, to die for sunsets and relaxation, you must find time for Capri!

I have been travelling quite a lot and I have seen amazing places, however, this island managed to win my heart from the start. It has this amazing vibe, good energy and simply awe-moments views. If you are with your loved one, you may fall in love over and over again at every corner. Oh well, I may be slightly subjective, as I also took part in a wedding at sunset over there, and I am dating a romantic soul myself, but still, it is a Lovers’ Paradise.

If you fully want to enjoy the beauty of this island, do the following two things any Italian resident person would recommend you:

  1. Do not go to Capri in mid summer. Try to do it in May or best, the second part of September. The weather is mild and amazing, and you avoid the touristic uber-crowded period…believe me! You want to enjoy your ice-cream strolling on the street, holding hands without bumping into herds of people 😀
  2. Stay on the island, as in sleep there! You make no justice to the island if you just drop by for a short visit…you do not get to feel it, enjoy it at its true worth… just saying :). I personally recommend the following options for staying: Tiberio Palace – if you want the full 5star experience; Hotel Luna – if you want an amazing view experience, Hotel Weber Ambassador – if you want a 4star with beach access, and waking up with the most amazing sunrise; or gather a gang of friends and take an Airbnb house with a terrace :).

I am a hopeless romantic, so for me this island was just a reason to feel butterflies at every corner. You don’t need a car there – the taxis or scooters are the way to go. And walk, as much as you can in Capri, Anacapri, every where!

Coming from a bohemian souls as myself, here are a few must-do things or must-go places (the rest you find on tripadvisor):

  1. Capri Rooftop – amazing cocktails and a to die for view over the Faraglioni :D. We got here by chance at our first bottle of Prosecco…we ended up drinking 3 of them, and ending the night on a high loving note!
  2. La Fontelina &  Faraglioni – La Fontelina is one of the best fish restaurants in the world at the bottom of Faraglioni. Take the boat from Marina Piccola, kiss at the Faraglioni (yes, that eternal love kinda blabla thing, even if you don’t believe it, fairytales are nice to live, and all girls dig it, let’s be honest!), and then drop by at the La Fontelina. Reserve a table first and choose whatever makes your heart tick as everything is delicious!
  3. The Blue grotto – I haven’t personally been, but a few friends have and I was so damn jealous of their videos, so don’t miss it! You get to go inside this grotto, swim and the scenery is just amazing – Google it if you don’t believe me! You’ll make your heart cry :)))
  4. Buonacore Gelateria – yup! Amazing artisanal ice-cream! They bake the cones there too, and if you want a proper Italian snack or breakfast and real, no-overpriced coffee – this is the place! You easily recognize it, as people cue over there during the day, so either go before 11am or after 5pm :). Get a Cannolli also – they have different types…yeah…I start drooling just thinking about them….and when I think I went there with a doctor’s recommendation not to touch carbs or sugar….but I could not refuse those! I like to believe Italian sweets are actually good for anyone’s health :)))
  5. Villa Margherita – for a nice romantic dinner and amazing food – the set-up in a villa with a garden overlooking the sea is amazing! The owner is so kind and the food simply perfect! I think I ate the best grilled octopus ever over there!
  6. Anacapri – get up the mountain in Monte Solaro and have a drink up there with the best view – besides the fact that going up is fun, you can also enjoy a great Aperol up there. Breath in and let the beauty take over!
  7. Villa San Michele –  I had no time to go there, but it is a must see I have heard for a brunch, just a perfect reason besides the rest to go back to Capri for me.
  8. Catch a sunset at the Faro – totally worth it…there is also a cosy bar with nice music there so you can stop for drinks and enjoy the wonders of nature 🙂

There are other cool places and amazing restaurants to visit. Google a bit so that you do not go to the tourist traps. As in any place, there are some of those too :).

If you have a late plane arrival or you need to stay one night in Napoli before getting to Capri, do it….for the food!!! Really! You can eat the best pizza ever (I mean they are the creators of it) at Gino Sorbillo – famous place in the world and then enter a traditional trattoria Napoletana and you will not regret. As for the best gelato I ever ate, try Casa Infante! I mean, I had a sweet heart attack! It’s like Disneyland…for unicorns! 🙂

So here it is, my little guide to Capri. I hope it helps…at least to those that asked! And, yes, I insist you do plan a trip there! For me, it is on my top 10 favorite places I have been to!

Airport: Napoli

Way to get to Capri from Napoli: Ferry from Napoli’s ports: Check http://www.capri.net/en/ferry-schedule

Getting around Capri: taxi or rent a scooter if you can ride it. It’s fun too!

For anything else: Google 🙂

P.S. If you are looking for the perfect wedding location, this may be one of them! 🙂

 

For the Love of Sun…

Sometimes I feel so close to the Sun…

It must be because my love for you is so incandescent.

My soul is longing for an eternal happiness

And only you can calm it down.

So I wait with a trembling heart for the consuming moment…

The one where you unite me with your soul,

The one when before bed I put my head on your chest

And on your warm heart.

Words can no longer be handcuffed and the poems flow between us

Giving birth to rain, stars, sunsets, color…

Everything becomes so small, insignificant.

Only our wings start to grow bigger.

And they keep on lifting us towards the sky, to the moon,

While we carry with us all the sun rays our love creates.

Yes, I am close to the Sun – I am close to You.

 

Dance your troubles into Love

You did not teach me
how to tame the storm.
But you taught me
I can always dance
in the rain.
As if it were
always spring,
walking among flowers,
stepping on fresh grass
and cold soil,
hugging an old tree,
feeling the heart of
nature as it beats.
And as her pulse
merges with mine,
my love breaks away
from my arteries,
pumping feelings,
spilling out
in shape of words.
My thoughts are settling,
catching color and form
like a rainbow
over the cloudy skies.
The sun finally 
rises on the peaks
at the same height
with my dreams…
And so, my heart is awaken
by rays of life,
reborn from its own pain.
And it’s ready
to meet your heart
in a sort of waltz,
slipping on the edge of time.
And you ask me
with warm loving eyes,
while I abandon myself
in your embrace
and unmistakable scent:
Would you take this
leap of dance with me?
To ourselves,
to our love,
to US?

Let the Unexpected take over… at least once in your life

I had a small epiphany when I was in Annecy, France yesterday. The combination of perfect blue water (Lake Annecy has this mesmerizing blue color), beach (yup, there is an actual sandy beach by the lake), and sun (in the Alps, contrary of what you might think) have this magical way of inspiring me. And there is this French like romance in the air that makes you loose yourself into the blues and… simply dream. So, I was thinking of how I’ve had my share of loves, dissapointments, amazing moments and less great ones. I have made mistakes but also made people happy. The circle of… love life, I guess, what can I say? 🙂 But what I’ve discovered is that the best kind of love is the unexpected one. You don’t just pick someone and hope it works out. No, this is different. You meet by chance, and there’s an instant connection and the chemistry between you is way above your head – there’s nothing you can do about it. And you just talk and notice the way their lips curve when they smile or the color of their eyes and all at once you know you’re either lucky or screwed. Or at least, that’s what I’ve learned in the last 30 years. 

So cherish it if it happens to you for as long as it lasts. It doesn’t have to be forever because all that matters is that you live it, feel it to the fullest. Let go of the rules, of what you think it is expected from you… just let it take over you. You will always regret the things you did not do, more than the things you’ve done. And… from what I’ve seen, despite what most people think, life can bless you more than once with this kind of love. You just have to surrender to it, not fight it. Act hopeless, and let it be magical. Never Settle until you feel that! It’s just an advice from a unicornian optimistic over the top romantic person that I am :). If you love yourself as you should, you owe it to yourself against all odds! 

“I don’t have enough of…” – How often do you actually say or think this? Often, yes, I know. Well, it only attracts more of “not enough”…

Have you ever thought that more often than not for many of us the first thing that crosses our mind when we wake up is  “I did not sleep enough“? And the second thing we often think and say is “I don’t have enough time“. Interesting?…or rather worrying I would say… No matter if it’s true or not, the thought of “I do not have enough” of something… automatically crosses our mind, without much questioning or real examination. It’s like this society we live in has programmed us so.

We spend a great deal of our lives worrying and wining that one thing or another is not enough. Before touching the floor in the morning, before standing up, we feel that things already don’t go at the pace as they should, that we are lagging behind, that we’ve lost something, that we miss something. And in the evening, when we lay in bed, our mind repeats over and over all the things we obtained or that we did not do that day. We fall asleep with the burden of our thoughts and we wake up thinking of what’s missing from our life…

It’s like we have an automatic feel for an internal discontent with ourselves and our lives, and this lays as foundation for feelings like jealousy, greed, intolerance, feeling of being fed up with this life. Anyways, nothing good in the long run actually comes out of this thinking. It’s negative vibes that we start our day with due to the hectic lives that we have. And actually, if you think about it, it all comes down to the feeling that “I am not enough…”.

But it’s ok. Admitting you are inclined to think as I described is the first step towards a shift in mindset. How about waking up each morning feeling gratitude for a new day, for all the good things in your life? And if you have problems identifying those good things, just sit down for 20 minutes and put them on a list. Start with health, body or the people surrounding you or the experiences life has given you to go through and so on. Nothing is for granted. Everything is a gift to be cherished. So be thankful for it every morning when you open your eyes. Block the “I don’t have enough, I don’t…” thoughts and replace them with “I am grateful for…”. You may notice, a glimpse of a smile when you do this.

Also, when you go to bed, think of the highlight of the day, the best thing that happened to you that day, no matter how grey or bad overall the day was. Be grateful for that one little thing (or big thing I hope :)) that was good. I am sure you can always find one.

Practice gratitude and positive vibes will just come automatically. It happens to me all the time. It’s not easy to train your mind to think this way. We have years of training into “There is not enough of…”, and coming from an X-communist culture myself, this thinking is very well embedded in our behavior. But it’s changeable, and when you manage to replace discontent with gratitude, your mood will change, the things that you attract will change and you will put a positive twist on your every day no matter how grim it may look initially. And it’s not overacting to say, it will change your life. It’s worth to try, believe me 🙂

 

Imperfect is real… The rest, well, is pure perception. And I have to ask: how would you rather live your life?

It’s been a while since I’ve actually used writing to express myself. I guess the last few months, when apparently my perfect image cracked and I was confronted with accepting and loving an imperfect self, made me do it again. Expressing is good, and guess what?, it will always be imperfect. Expect others to judge it! But every each of us should do it. I am the silent type. I do not counter fight, I do not defend myself, I do not speak, I don’t complain… I listen, internalize, sometimes grieve, feel guilty, apologize the most and find my strength to move on and live life. I am actually bad at talking about what I feel. But, in time, I understood this eats me up inside, it pills up, all the unsaid… and writing, well, in my case, apparently helps. And… I have to admit it feels good. So bare with me, if I spam your News feed.  I have no intention of using imperfection to avoid owning mistakes in general. That would be against what I am trying to write. I may not be the perfect writer, but that’s not the point. The point is to express what I feel and think, as imperfect as it is, and maybe grow in the process, while, if I am lucky enough, inspire others to do the same and not be afraid to show to the world their beautiful imperfect selves.

What I’ve learned lately is how to value the authenticity and beauty of imperfection. I don’t pretend to know it all, neither am I a model of living to follow, but what I know for sure is the importance of owning who you really are, with the good and the not so good, the highs and the lows, the strengths and the weaknesses. I’ve done right and I’ve done wrong, I’ve made people happy and helped them, and I’ve hurt some deeply in the process, I was a reason to smile, and a reason for tears. Complex, right? But this is what each of us does in a lifetime, every each of us, whether you like it or not. Think about it… This is actually how we grow and we never stop learning and growing over the years. But more importantly, the fact that we are so damn imperfect makes us unique. This is why in order to evolve happily and live beautifully (as I like to say), we need to own it, take responsibility for what we do, learn from it, understand who we are, accept it and cherish life in the process.

I recently started reading a great book I received from a dear friend – “The courage of being vulnerable” by Brene Brown. It really inspires me… with every page I read. Because, yes, it takes balls for a man and lots of guts for a woman to show their vulnerabilities to the world. It is so damn courageous to do so, to stand naked in front of everyone with all you are and feel, and own it. I have lived most of  my life avoiding being vulnerable. Though it is so natural, so human, so part of who we are. I have built walls around me not to get hurt, keeping a calculated distance from falling too deeply in love, maintaining control, acting flawless in school or at work, showing strength no matter the situation, and actually even being proud of my no-tear shed for anyone track record in my personal life. But this me, without vulnerabilities… wasn’t really me. This was ultimately pretending, a mask, hiding a more sensitive self. And I have missed a lot pretending… feelings, personal inner development, the beauty of loving with all your heart, the growth and motivation that pain and sorrow can arise from oneself.

When we act bullet proof strong, cold, in-control, we actually put a shield around us and pretend. It’s valid for everyone, and we all are all doing it at some point in time in a situation or another. It’s that pressure of being unbreakable and perfect… In the end, if you think about it, who defines perfection? Social media, friends, family, your network, media in general? Probably other people that pretend to be untouchable, so it’s all a perception in the end. Nothing real. What is real is YOU. The real YOU. Late at night, when you close the door, and there is just you, your thoughts and nothing else, does that uber-strength still apply? Does it really? And then I ask, who are we really? Who is the real YOU? It’s beautifully imperfect the vulnerable way we are. The best feeling is to embrace it, accept it and love ourselves for it. Because it’s real. It’s like living in the NOW. I would actually put vulnerability, together with imperfection, genuine love for oneself and others, and living in the present, as pre-requisites for living beautifully, peacefully and in content with us and the world.

To end this small monologue, I read about this 10 principles of living life to the fullest by Brene Brown in another book, and I thought they are worth sharing. I plan to follow them as much as I can. It may not be easy, but my newly discovered imperfection calls for it :).

  1. Develop your authenticity – don’t always think of what others say
  2. Develop your self compassion – give up perfectionism
  3. Develop your resilience – fight against feelings of being hopeless and incapable
  4. Develop gratitude and happiness – fight your fears and stop thinking of what is missing from your life
  5. Develop your intuition, your self confidence and confidence in others – give up the need for security
  6. Develop your creativity – stop comparing yourself with others
  7. Invest more time in playing and resting – results at work do not always define who you ultimately are
  8. Develop a state of peace and silence – give up anxiety
  9. Invest your time in what makes sense to you, don’t question yourself and don’t live by the expectations of others of you
  10. Don’t forget to laugh, to sing and to dance – stop pretending that you control every situation, it’s pointless